Thursday, September 8, 2011


No one likes to talk about death. But it should be talked about. It is not the happiest thing to talk about but death will come to us all.

In less than 24 hours, I have been informed of two deaths. One is my bestest online friend's mother and my brother-in-law's father. They were both sick.

I believe that they are in a better place without pain and suffering. They are watching over their families. They will be missed by their families and everyone who has met them will have at least one memory of them.

 My parents used to tell my sister and I when they died, where their important papers were and in their will they have everything split in the middle. We used to hee haw saying we didn't want to talk about it. I think the reason is because we just didn't want to phantom the idea of them dying.

When I was married to my ex, and especially during the period of being gravely ill, I used to talk to my ex about what I wanted if I died.He would tell me to stop talking about it but I wanted my wishes to be known! I didn't want to be cremated and didn't want my body to be put into a 'cardboard box." When I would tell him I didn't want to be on life-support if that is just keeping me alive, he would brush it off so I told my parents. I had a living will written which I really need to redo.

I didn't know my bestest friend's mother as I never met him or his mother. We are miles apart but knowing him (Yes, I do know him although we never met. He knows more about me than anyone else in this world. One of these days we will meet.) I know his mother was a wonderful person. She raised a wonderful son and I know he spent alot of time with her.

I saw my brother-in-law's father numerous times. He was gruff and loud on the exterior but he was a sweet kind man underneath. He was one of those people that he would give the shirt off his back. He was a firm believer of God. He would make me laugh every time I saw him.

After you read this, if you are at odds with a family member, make amends as you will never know when one of you will be gone from this earth. Turn to your loved one and hug them. Talk about what you want when it is your time to go. Because that day will come eventually.


  1. I've been saying this since dealing with losing my husband. It's so important to have your family know what you want. And to cry about it when they are alive and can comfort you is better than wishing you said things when they were alive. Great post my friend. Excellent.

  2. I have told the same thing to my kids for years and now they are full grown and they still put their dad and I off when we talk about where everything is, what to do, what they have, what Lawyer to see, where the keys are and whats paid for. They just don't want to be realistic that death is and will happene to their parents.

  3. Thanks Bouncing Barb and Path. I responded but obviously it didn't go through. Barb, I am sorry about your loss. I agree with you. I always said, have a clergyman bless me before they bury me and that's it. If people don't want to come see me when I am alive,they don't have to come see me deceased. I realize a funeral is also for the family's but it is the way I feel.

    Path: We just don't want to face death or think of someone close to us gone. I am confident your children know since you told them. Thinking I would be hurt, my mom told me that my sister knows the keys and will be the executer since she is the oldest. I totally understand that.



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