Sunday, January 20, 2019

The Wooden Bowl

Hey Folks.

So much has been going on. In December, my daughter aka BabyGirl graduated college with her Masters and she landed her a job as PROFESSIONAL SCHOOL COUNSELOR. I'm so proud of her.

My life is same as medical issues keep arising but what else is new? Nothing life threatening. Just irritants.

What I want to share with you is a little story that I received when Hubby and I went to a presentation regarding Alzheimer's and Dementia. Some of you may have heard of it but for reminders and for those who didn't here it is. This broke my heart and wanted to shake the son and daughter-in-law. But a lesson is to be learned.

The Wooden Bowl

I guarantee you will remember the tale of the Wooden Bowl tomorrow, a week from now and a month from now, a year from now.

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law and four year old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered.  The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaken  hands and failing sight made eating difficult...Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor.

When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth. The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the man."We must do something about father," said the son. "I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor. " So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl. When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone.  Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food. The four-year-old watched it all in silence.

One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, "What are you making?" Just as sweetly, the boy responded, "Oh I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up."

The four-year old smiled and went back to work. The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless.  Then tears started to stream down their cheeks.  Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.  That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband or wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped and milk spilled on the tablecloth soiled.

Until next time....Reflect on  the message of this tale.

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Tuesday, December 4, 2018

Seventh Year Wedding Anniversary!

Yesterday was Hubby and I's Seventh Wedding Anniversary.  We watched the video this morning because we were busy yesterday. Get your mind out of the gutter!

I wrote a couple of posts about our wedding starting at Introducing Mr and Mrs.

First, let me tell you, I just hate seeing myself on video or listening to my own voice. But I was clearer than I remembered so that was a good thing. The Pastor was awesome. 

As I watched Hubby on the video, I see the love he had for me and I know he loves me just as much now. 

I feel the luckiest girl in the world. You know there's a saying that three times is a charm. Well, my third time has been so wonderful. 

I cannot even attempt to explain in words how much I love and respect my husband.  He has not let me down once.

My Hunk of Love :) Look how Handsome he is.
Exchanging rings.

As I have said before my family accepted him and liked him right away. 

My mom repeats now and then that my Hubby is a REAL Man. She says he can see the love and respect he has for me. She says since he has come into my life, she can breathe easier and doesn't worry about me as much because she sees that he is always there for me. When I'm sick or have an illness he takes care of me. He accepts my disability and treats me like anyone else. 

I have to agree with her.

I like this quote about marriage.

So what did we do for our anniversary? We went to see Bohemian Rhapsody. If you liked Queen, you will enjoy it. We both loved it.  It is one of my favorite movies. Then we went across the street and ate a Sicily's Italian Buffet. 

It was a great 7th year anniversary.

See you soon!  Until next time, tell the person you love, whether it is your spouse, friend, pet, just how much they mean to you.

Friday, November 30, 2018


As I've said in my latest post, I've been having gastrointestinal problems. It never ends.

I went to my appointment Monday and he told me to stop Fiber pills and Miralax and all laxatives and take Citrucel. He also wanted to do an endoscopy and gastric emptying x-ray.

My endoscopy appointment was scheduled for Dec 21st and gastric emptying x-ray for  Dec 6th. 

It was arranged that my sister and Mom would take me for the endoscopy since Hubby had to work at his new job

Yesterday, hubby was off and the doctor's office nurse called and asked if I would be willing to do the endoscopy in the afternoon. I said sure. They told me to be at the Surgery Center, in the same building as his office on the first floor for 11:30 am. (It was initially scheduled at a hospital I don't care for because it is so darn big and walking from Point A to Point B is like walking 5 miles.)

 We arrived and did the paperwork.  Receptionist said he was coming at 12:30. At noon they called me to the back, I had to put the big gown on and an IV was inserted. About 10 minutes later the anesthesiologist came and talked to us. (That was never done at my previous GI doctor).

Then about 12:20 Dr. Jat arrived and checked in on me. (Again, my previous GI doctor never did that). They wheeled me in the surgical room, put me on my side, put the mouthpiece in place and the anesthesiologist said I was going to feel a little burn and I was out. I was dreaming of Babygirl when they woke me up and said it was over.

Doc told Hubby that they didn't see anything bad but did take biopsies. They gave us four pictures which I have no clue what I'm looking at. I know one is my colon but no clue what the others are.

They discharged me shortly after. We were home by 2 pm and that was with making 2 stops, gas station and Sonic for my Dr. Pepper.

The whole experience was so different and nice, not having to wait for 4-5 hours. It might have just been a good day and I lucked out but I really like Dr. JAT, his staff, the Surgery Center's staff and procedures.

I am still kinda groggy from yesterday but it is all good. I'm sore when I swallow anything but that is to be expected and it'll go away.

Oh! and the Citrucel worked wonders. I don't like orange and Citrucel is orange but I will drink it because it works!! 

I like Dr. Jat although at my appointment he kindly told me to stop talking while he was reading my history. I was only trying to give him information, in my defense. 😡 After he finished reading, I had his full attention.  Everyone was nice and caring. 

I have ALL of my doctors within 30 minutes, instead of 60 minutes now. Amen!!

Until next time...Look into a stranger's eyes and say hello! Who knows you might make someone's day :)

Wednesday, November 21, 2018

Convalidation Ceremony.

As most of you know, I married my Hubby almost 7 years ago. We 'eloped' in Las Vegas. The marriage was not recognized by the church. According to the church laws, we were still living in sin and still married to our exes (according to church laws).

For a few years, I had been thinking about how Hubby being married to me, I was the cause of his being in sin. I also was but he was my main concern. I knew I would have to get an annulment from my daughter's father.  I hate the process as I've done it before.

Coincidentally, or maybe God was talking to me, there was an announcement in our church bulletin that there would be a workshop in regards getting an annulment. Hubby and I decided to check it out.

We learned a lot. One thing that surprised us was although Hubby and his ex-were not married in the church and she wasn't Catholic, he had to get an annulment as well because he is Catholic. We were surprised and confused but nevertheless, we had to do what was required to reach our goal. That was to be good with the Church and God.

While Hubby only had to get some documentation such as divorce decree, baptismal certificate, etc.  I had to do same AND fill out an 18-page questionnaire going back from my childhood and reliving my failed marriage(s).

If you are at all interested, you can find the questionnaire and scroll to Part 4 for the questions I had to answer.

It was hard. I had to relive the good, the bad and the ugly of my whole life until the present and write it down in story-like form. At times I was typing with tears flowing reliving the pain in my life. I thought I would have to go back to therapy after this. (Just kidding but it was ROUGH). When I finished I realized it made me do a lot of soul searching and face some things I kept inside all these years, some ONLY Father knows now. And God of course.

Father helped me step by step. I never felt uncomfortable or judged by him. He was amazed at how much I had been through. He kept telling me how strong a person I am and he was sorry I had to go through what I've gone through since my birth and then had to relive this but reminded me that there is a purpose for all of this.

After I was finished answering the questions, Father sent it in and we waited. The average time it takes to find out if our marriages are annulled is up to 6 months. It only took one month and we both had our annulments. I might explain it more if I have any requests why it went so fast.

I think Father was more excited than we were. When we received the annulments, he boasted, "Ya'll are an engaged couple now!." Hubby and I both had about the same thoughts, "Huh?" But, we were, in the eyes of the church, an engaged couple."

We then had to go through the prenuptial process which included going to an engaged couple's encounter which we did.  That is another story in itself. We then set the date for the Convalidation that coincided Father and our schedules which was October 20. I asked him how does our anniversary work now. I couldn't believe the almost 7 years we've been married would be obsolete. He said we could just celebrate two anniversaries. That's pretty cool!

We agreed to have only our parents, my daughter and her husband, siblings and one of Hubby's friends who is a deacon.

I am happy to say everyone showed up for the ceremony. A few had to leave after and forego the 'reception"  because of previous plans. But we were thankful that they did alter their plans to come to our Convalidation. You know who you are. Thank you!
I asked my brother in law to be an amateur photographer at the last minute. After seeing the pictures, don't you agree that he did an awesome job? We totally forgot to get one of Hubby and me only. Oh well! The ceremony started late, which lasted 15 minutes, but we had reservations at a restaurant we were in a hurry to get to.

So here are the pictures.

You know how parents say their kids never listen to them. This time my family didn't listen to me. Mom, a devout Catholic. said she wanted to give us something to remember our day. She was looking for an angel like she has but they were out at the Rosary House. But she found this which is beautiful. This was from my parents and sister and her husband.
Ted, my brother in law took the pictures below. He even recorded some but you can hardly hear it so I am not including those. 

Blessed Mother

The Altar of our Church. I am always looking at Jesus on the cross during mass. It gives me comfort, hope and faith.

Father Blessings
Father Reading Scripture
From Left to Right; Babygirl, Me, Father A, Hubby and Deacon Wyble.  Deacon and  BabyGirl were our witnesses.

Reception at Picante's Mexican Restaurant. They were the best!

There you go! Sorry, it took a month but you know how I am by now :)

Thanks for dropping by and until next time...have a Happy and Safe Thanksgiving. 

Thursday, November 8, 2018

GI Woes

Hi Everyone,

It's me again. I know it has been a while but I have not been feeling well. I know that is really nothing new but the symptoms are different. I've been dealing with cramping, nausea,  abdomen pain, alternating diarrhea, and constipation. etc. I decided to change GI doctors for a few reasons.

1. He is a great doctor when it comes to procedures. But that is the ONLY time I see him, a few seconds before he puts me under. Otherwise, I'm dealing with his nurse practitioner and I've mentioned how I feel about them.

2. Since my former family doctor changed his practice and my pulmonologist retired I've had to find other doctors so I figured I just as well get ALL of my doctors near where I live.

My new GI doctor's appointment is not until Nov 26. My family doctor has done many tests. H. Pylori was negative.

She did a CT of my abdomen with contrast. It is abnormal. 

1) A large amount of stool noted within colon aka constipation. I have a long history of constipation but not this severe. She said my peristalsis has slowed. I knew that. She told me to give myself 1 or 2 enemas and then drink Milk of Magnesia for a week. Let's just say the toilet was my best friend. I alternate constipation/diarrhea. It's frustrating

2) I have a lot of gastric distention which means bloating of the stomach when air is pumped into it. I have complained about excessive gas for months to deaf ears. They told me to take Fiber. "SIGH"

3) I have wall thickening of the gastric wall of the GE junction (Suggesting reflux-no surprise I do have Gastroesophageal reflux)

4) Thickening of the duodenum as well as the gallbladder. Gallbladder has enhancement. Last December I had a HIDA scan that was completely normal. Doc said let's see what new GI doc says.

5. My most worrisome finding is that I have "RIght liver lobe 11 mm x 5.6 mm nonspecific area of decreased enhancement. Suggestion from radiologists was to get a follow-up CT scan in 3 months.

There was more like bronchiectasis in my lung, no big surprise and part of a kidney is atrophied and has lesions.

She said there may be some kind of bacteria so she put me on 2 antibiotics, Cipro and Flagyl. Flagyl is awful but I take anti-nausea Zofran before I take Flagyl with food or my Ensure. It helps some with the side effects..

She did another stool test since someone screwed up with my other stool. Waiting on those results.

I'm tired of my organs. I wish I could replace them😃. I've lost about 5 lbs. I had reached 92 lbs.

Even with all this going on My Hubby and I have been working on getting our marriage convalidated (Pretty much means blessed in the church). More on my next post.

Just wanted to let my followers know as some have been asking.

Until next time.....Pray for violence to stop!

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