When Family Can't Pay to Bury A Loved one

I learned something this week that has made me sad.

Do you know that if someone dies and the family cannot afford the funeral, the coroner keeps the body in the morgue until:
a) The family comes up with the money by themselves or they have fundraisers to raise the money or
b) SOMETIMES the church will help?

He said sometimes it is a long time.

I had just finished choosing my casket and preparing for my funeral when the Mortuary Director, Dan gave me the cost of the whole thing. When I saw the price and Hubby and I were talking about how we were going to pay for it I asked Dan what happens to those who don't have the pre burial and their family could not come up with that much money? That was his answer.

Don't get me wrong I don't plan on dying soon.

Hubby and his ex had done theirs. I thought we were just going to see if we could transfer her policy to me since she has other arrangements, which we learned it is nontransferable.

When Dan said it was nontransferable I was ready to go as I thought Hubby and I were going to discuss our next step.

However, I was wrong.

Dan said so the next step is for you to go look for the casket you want. I looked at Hubby and whispered, "Are we going to do this now?" He nonchalantly said, "Yes."

I was confused but went along with it.

After choosing the casket and we went back to do the paperwork, Dan said, "So you are 51." I said, "How do you know I am 51" then it clicked. Hubby had talked to him more than making an appointment for what I thought.

During the process of looking at the caskets I was thinking how many families have to do this during their mourning. I was trying to visualize how hard it would be for BabyGirl to do it.

Later when we were on our way home I thanked Hubby because although I knew there was a lot of things to do for a funeral and it did cost money, it was still overwhelming. I have that serene feeling when God does call me, all my family has to do is make sure the information is updated and say their goodbyes. Everything is arranged and paid for.

Hubby said he knew the cost had tripled from the time he had his done He figured if I live for another 20-30 years it would be even higher. He wanted to get it all arranged with what I wanted and paid for now.

My thinking is he not only helped himself but he helped BabyGirl. I know it may sound weird to some but it makes my heart warm.

But I still think of those poor souls in the coroner's morgue waiting to be buried. It is sad.

Do you or your family members have burial/funeral arrangements for when God comes calling for you?

Death

No one likes to talk about death. But it should be talked about. It is not the happiest thing to talk about but death will come to us all.

In less than 24 hours, I have been informed of two deaths. One is my bestest online friend's mother and my brother-in-law's father. They were both sick.

I believe that they are in a better place without pain and suffering. They are watching over their families. They will be missed by their families and everyone who has met them will have at least one memory of them.

 My parents used to tell my sister and I when they died, where their important papers were and in their will they have everything split in the middle. We used to hee haw saying we didn't want to talk about it. I think the reason is because we just didn't want to phantom the idea of them dying.

When I was married to my ex, and especially during the period of being gravely ill, I used to talk to my ex about what I wanted if I died.He would tell me to stop talking about it but I wanted my wishes to be known! I didn't want to be cremated and didn't want my body to be put into a 'cardboard box." When I would tell him I didn't want to be on life-support if that is just keeping me alive, he would brush it off so I told my parents. I had a living will written which I really need to redo.

I didn't know my bestest friend's mother as I never met him or his mother. We are miles apart but knowing him (Yes, I do know him although we never met. He knows more about me than anyone else in this world. One of these days we will meet.) I know his mother was a wonderful person. She raised a wonderful son and I know he spent alot of time with her.

I saw my brother-in-law's father numerous times. He was gruff and loud on the exterior but he was a sweet kind man underneath. He was one of those people that he would give the shirt off his back. He was a firm believer of God. He would make me laugh every time I saw him.

After you read this, if you are at odds with a family member, make amends as you will never know when one of you will be gone from this earth. Turn to your loved one and hug them. Talk about what you want when it is your time to go. Because that day will come eventually.

Should Your State Be An Automatic Donor State

Should Your State Be an Automatic Donor State?

I am a registered donor. It's on my driver's license, MY Love knows it, my parents know it and my daughter (if she remembers) know it. It is MY choice. After I am gone, if any of my organs can help anyone or they can be studied and learn something to help another person that's grand. I figured why bury me with organs others can use. That's just me. Some people want to be buried with what they came onto this earth with and that's great. It is their choice.

Colorado is trying to make it an automatic donor state which means when you die, its not your preference what's going to happen to your body. They can take your organs when you die and put it in someone else. Like one person against it says I would be afraid they would let me die because they need my organs for someone who they want to save. Colorado already has 65.5% of their population who are donors. Their organ donation population is the highest of all states.

Why make it a law? It's utterly nonsense.. Here comes the government trying to control more of your life. It is YOUR BODY. You were born with it. You should have that choice of what happens after you die.

That's My Opinion and I'm Sticking to It!